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Parents want marriage, I am not ready

I am a 27-year-old woman working for a prominent bank. My parents are pressuring me to get married. They keep introducing me to potential suitors, and every family gathering turns into a discussion about why I’m still single. I have a good job, and I want to focus on my career, but they don’t understand. […]

Q&A – 24 February 2025

Husband places wife on bet My husband is a football enthusiast who enjoys making outrageous bets. I recently discovered that he has ‘bet me’ in an upcoming football match. If he loses, his friend (a wealthy businessman) will take me as his wife. These guys do not joke around bets they make. Does this mean I am […]

Employee facing criminal charges

I am a diligent employee at a service company located in Lindi. I was so close to management that my colleagues grew envious and turned into rivals. Last month, a customer complained to management about employees soliciting bribes. Following a covert vote among the staff to identify the suspects, my name was mentioned. I have […]

Monthly leave for women

I am a well-known Zambian woman working in technology and have moved to Tanzania to work as a manager for a new Artificial Intelligence development corporation based in Dar es Salaam. While I am a well-accomplished woman, I suffer from dysmenorrhea, a health condition which impacts my work every month. Back home in Zambia, I […]

Husband places wife on bet

My husband is a football enthusiast who enjoys making outrageous bets. I recently discovered that he has ‘bet me’ in an upcoming football match. If he loses, his friend (a wealthy businessman) will take me as his wife. These guys do not joke around bets they make. Does this mean I am legally obligated to participate in […]

Q&A – 17 February 2025

Dowry cows returned skinny Three months ago, I got engaged to a beautiful woman with a very high bride price. I offered her family 10 fat, healthy cows as the bride price. Unfortunately, the engagement was called off after she found a fellow who was wealthier than I am. Her family has returned the cows, […]

Goats crossed fence

My neighbour’s goats keep sneaking into my garden and munching on my vegetables. The other day, they devoured all my cabbages. I asked the owner to compensate me for the damages, but he claimed my fence was so weak that even a toddler could knock it over.  How can he not see that the goats […]

Reputation in trouble

I own a well-known beauty salon in Dar es Salaam. A TikToker with thousands of followers created a video asserting that my salon is the worst in Tanzania and that I have “ruined more hair than side-pieces have ruined marriages.” My clients are now cancelling appointments because of this viral video. I have tried contacting […]

Dowry cows returned skinny

Three months ago, I got engaged to a beautiful woman with a very high bride price. I offered her family 10 fat, healthy cows as the bride price. Unfortunately, the engagement was called off after she found a fellow who was wealthier than I am. Her family has returned the cows, as is customary among […]

Q&A – 10 February 2025

No intimacy in marriage I have been married to my husband for seven years. At first, our marriage seemed like a fairy tale. We shared dreams, mutual respect, and a love that felt unwavering. However, over the past two years, I began to feel a growing sense of dissatisfaction. These days, intimacy is lacking, and […]

Firearm in public

Last week, I decided to stroll around the neighbourhood while openly carrying a legally owned and registered firearm. I wandered about and eventually entered a bar for some refreshments. Many people noticed my gun, which filled me with pride. However, I was later asked to leave the bar because some customers felt uncomfortable with my […]

Airline body shamed me

I was travelling on a flight operated by an airline in Tanzania. During the flight, a crew member made derogatory comments about my body size, which is admittedly big, causing me significant distress. The crew member even moved me from the emergency seat, citing airline safety procedures. I felt humiliated but complied with the request […]

No intimacy in marriage

No intimacy in marriage I have been married to my husband for seven years. At first, our marriage seemed like a fairy tale. We shared dreams, mutual respect, and a love that felt unwavering. However, over the past two years, I began to feel a growing sense of dissatisfaction. These days, intimacy is lacking, and […]

Wife pregnant, child not mine

I do not know where to begin. I used to live in Dar es Salaam but moved to Dodoma following the Government shift to the Capital. My wife remained in Dar. I recently discovered that she is pregnant, but I suspect the child is not mine since her due date does not align with the […]

Opening pandora’s box

I recently heard a lawyer friend mention the phrase ‘opening pandora’s box’ in a legal discussion. As an ordinary Tanzanian with no legal background, I’m curious—what does this phrase mean in the legal world, and why do lawyers use it? Please enlighten me. EM, Kagera This is a great question! Let us start with the […]

Spouse option to live apart

I love my husband but I cannot tolerate his snoring at night. Can I live apart from him while remaining happily married? A colleague of mine told me it is possible to do so under the law on marriages. Please guide me. JD, Coast Region Section 67 of the Law of Marriage Act [Cap. 29 […]

Q&A – 3 February 2025

Wife pregnant, child not mine I do not know where to begin. I used to live in Dar es Salaam but moved to Dodoma following the Government shift to the Capital. My wife remained in Dar. I recently discovered that she is pregnant, but I suspect the child is not mine since her due date […]

Bar refused to serve me

I am a Simba fan and a couple of weeks ago our arch nemesis Yanga was removed from a tournament. I had placed a bet with a friend (a Yanga fan) that if his team did not qualify, he would buy me five crates of beer. After the match, we went to a high-end bar […]

Landlord visits at lunchtime

I am a specialist working in the technology sector. My work permits me to work from home, so I spend most of my day at home. I live in a one-bedroom, self-contained house within the same compound as my landlord. The landlord frequently visits me unannounced during lunch to discuss my rent or something concerning […]

Cosmetic surgery affecting Identity

I want to undergo intensive beauty treatment, including cosmetic procedures on the face, to enhance my beauty. My husband has discouraged me from doing this out of fear that these alterations may change my face and affect my identity. I know this is a silly question, but I really want to know whether Tanzania law […]

Wife refusing to buy food

My wife and I have been married for 2 years now. Our marriage was perfect until recently when I lost my job after the company I worked for shut down operations in Tanzania. I have been searching for another job for six months now while maintaining her with my savings. However, this may become impossible […]

Q&A – 27 January 2025

Wife refusing to buy food My wife and I have been married for 2 years now. Our marriage was perfect until recently when I lost my job after the company I worked for shut down operations in Tanzania. I have been searching for another job for six months now while maintaining her with my savings. […]

Property in mother in law’s name

I am married to a wealthy businessman, but he keeps all his property under his mother’s name. I don’t have any issues with this arrangement since I own property myself. However, I am concerned that this might not be a good idea, especially if our marriage does not work out and we get a divorce. […]

My counsellor has married my ex

I am a divorced man based in Lindi. I was married to a very beautiful woman whom I loved deeply. However, our marriage was turbulent and filled with many arguments, which led us to seek professional marriage counselling. Unfortunately, counselling did not resolve our issues, and we ultimately decided to divorce. This decision weighed heavily […]